Writer Lucy Dixon, 38, from East Anglia, reveals why finding love once you’ve had children is tough and there is no snogging from the couch
WHEN I told Tom*, some guy I happened to be dating, that i did son’t desire to see him any longer even as we ‘wanted various things’, he probably thought we implied marriage and commitment.
You understand, the plain things women can be so unimaginatively accused of wanting significantly more than men?
In fact, the plain things i want are great nights away accompanied by a lot of intercourse – but sadly they didn’t appear to top their range of priorities.
It could appear harsh to abandon some body because they’re delighted just cuddling from the settee once per week, but as being a single mum, my leisure time once I can in fact go out is valuable, and I also truly didn’t desire to waste it viewing telly with Tom.
I’ve been flying solo since my divorce proceedings a few years back, maybe maybe not very long after my son Josh*, now five, came to be.
I began dating pretty much instantly. I happened to be during my early 30s, solitary for the time that is first a decade and, following the upheaval of the failed wedding, ended up being keen to venture out, have a great time and satisfy brand new individuals.
And, needless to say, the only path to locate guys if you’re at house every evening while your youngster is asleep is internet dating.
In the beginning, it seemed exciting producing pages on Match.com and loads of Fish and straight away getting lots of messages. But we quickly got the wind knocked away from my sails once I started as much as relatives and buddies about my newfound love life. Their negativity had been astonishing and quite upsetting on occasion. Continue reading